"Are Women Really 'Never' Attracted To you?"

[ben2ong2]

   One thing I've noticed over the years is that a lot of men like to make broad, "absolute" statements
about themselves.

   For example, they may say things such as,

   "Women are never attracted to me."

   "Women always ignore me."

   "Women always see me as a friend."

   "White women do not like me."

   These are really awful generalizations to make. Tell
you a secret: in over 95 percent of the cases that I've worked
with, my clients can often find "counter-examples" to these
broad statements after a few email-therapy sessions with me.

   I'm going to give you a recent case example. An
African-America man emailed me because he felt white women are
"never" attracted to him. After several email correspondences,
I finally asked him to compile a list of women who have liked
him over the past two years.

   Surprisingly, out of the dozen or so women he has put
on the list, only two of them were African-American. The rest
were Caucasian.

   And this is a man who thinks white women are "never"
attracted to him.

   Here's the lesson on the day: Your mind is VERY good
at filtering out things that you do not want to "believe".

   For example...if you believe that women always just see
you as a friend...then your mind is going to "ignore" all the
other times when a woman DID fall for you ROMANTICALLY.

   I can bet you a dollar that most of the guys who
make these broad, absolute statements themselves are ignoring
various "counter-examples" that they have encountered in the
past.

   Listen...

   Instead of reinforcing your negative beliefs about
dating and success with women, you should be looking for
counter-examples that prove them wrong!

   For example, if you believe that women are "never"
attracted to you, then you need to look back and think of
just ONE time when a woman WAS attracted to you.

   Then think about what you DID to attract that girl -
even if you had done it subconsciously.

   For example...maybe you were relaxed and not nervous
because you were not expecting anything.

   Or maybe you had a good conversation with her
(without knowing) and she fell for you after.

   The point is to attack your negative beliefs and
figure out how you "did it".

   After all, the key to success is to figure out
what WORKS and then replicate your success again by
repeating the same actions. Making broad statements such as
"women never like me..." will NOT do anything for your
love life. Instead of beating yourself up, find out
what WORKS and duplicate it.

[staff]