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Posted by 613zf7l7
- January 03, 2011, 11:25:36 PMNot Acceptable
Living with an alcoholic/addict can be hard to understand. How can they not see how their drinking or using is affecting everything? Honestly, they do not. Very simply put when the people that love and care about them insist on ignoring everything and making believe in the status quo,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, the drunk takes that as acceptance. It’s just the way it is, and more importantly, that you accept their action. They have no clue that it bothers you.
You need to spell things out. Clearly, and confidently, tell them that their actions are not acceptable to you. Saying it once will have little or no impact. Just like the first time they came home hammered. It had little impact on you. It’s the years of them coming home hammered the lack of taking responsibility, and the increase in usage that has had the effect on you. Each time, you probably gave them a stern talking to, and moved on. For you,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, life keeps moving on. The bills still have to be paid, and if you can get them to participate with you in anyway, you are jumping at the chance.
Each time you make nice, you wipe out all the statements of I do not like your drinking. Not acceptable once has to be not acceptable at all times and forever. The rules do not change simply because they have thrown you a bone. The bone is a little bit of affection nine times out of ten. They are cheating with you on their real lover, alcohol or drugs.
Here is a small tip. Not acceptable is not acceptable. Get that point across. That may mean taking the empties out of the trash and putting a post it on the bottle. They will come home and throw the bottle back in the trash, pull it out and put the note on it. No screaming,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, no yelling,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, no discussion. NOT IN MY HOUSE. This is your house, and the drunk does not get to rule the roost. You do. You are the sober one. They do not like your no-drinking or using rules,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, they may leave. Period. Not acceptable is not acceptable.
Living with an alcoholic/addict can be hard to understand. How can they not see how their drinking or using is affecting everything? Honestly, they do not. Very simply put when the people that love and care about them insist on ignoring everything and making believe in the status quo,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, the drunk takes that as acceptance. It’s just the way it is, and more importantly, that you accept their action. They have no clue that it bothers you.
You need to spell things out. Clearly, and confidently, tell them that their actions are not acceptable to you. Saying it once will have little or no impact. Just like the first time they came home hammered. It had little impact on you. It’s the years of them coming home hammered the lack of taking responsibility, and the increase in usage that has had the effect on you. Each time, you probably gave them a stern talking to, and moved on. For you,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, life keeps moving on. The bills still have to be paid, and if you can get them to participate with you in anyway, you are jumping at the chance.
Each time you make nice, you wipe out all the statements of I do not like your drinking. Not acceptable once has to be not acceptable at all times and forever. The rules do not change simply because they have thrown you a bone. The bone is a little bit of affection nine times out of ten. They are cheating with you on their real lover, alcohol or drugs.
Here is a small tip. Not acceptable is not acceptable. Get that point across. That may mean taking the empties out of the trash and putting a post it on the bottle. They will come home and throw the bottle back in the trash, pull it out and put the note on it. No screaming,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, no yelling,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, no discussion. NOT IN MY HOUSE. This is your house, and the drunk does not get to rule the roost. You do. You are the sober one. They do not like your no-drinking or using rules,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, they may leave. Period. Not acceptable is not acceptable.