I've got a question for you: Do you know how you
REALLY sound and how you REALLY act?
Do the following assignments to find out:
1) RECORD YOURSELF TALKING: Use a tape recorder or your
computer to record yourself talking. Then play it back
and listen to your voice. See if it's:
1) Resonant
2) Deep and relaxed
3) Clear
4) Slow
2) RECORD YOURSELF ON FILM:
Next, get a video camera (borrow one from a friend
if you don't have one) and tape yourself walking, sitting, and
having conversations. Or even better, get a friend to film
yourself at a social gathering. Then play the tape and watch
yourself on video. Watch your own body language and ask yourself
if you're satisfied.
Here are a couple of things to look for:
1) Your posture
2) Your positions (laid back, etc)
3) Your energy (charming, nervous, etc)
4) Your gestures
5) Your speed
Try to pinpoint your own weaknesses so that you can
improve on them.
This stuff is CRUCIAL to your success.