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    Title: Addiction to Complaining   Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.  E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com   Copyright: ? 2005 by Margaret Paul  URL: http://www.innerbonding.com  Word Count: 723  Category: Self Improvement     
    Addiction to Complaining  By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.   
  Complaining is a way of life for some people. It was certainly a way of life for my mother. I don’t remember a day going by without her complaining, endlessly. I don’t think I ever heard a word of gratitude out of my mother’s mouth. No matter how good things were, she would manage to find something wrong. No matter how perfect I was – and God knows I tried to be perfect! – she always found something wrong with me,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, as well as with my father.   
  Over the years of counseling others, I’ve noticed that some people start every session with a complaint. They can’t seem to help it. Like my mother, they are addicted to complaining.   
  Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain?   
  People who complain are generally people who have not done the emotional and spiritual work of developing a loving, compassionate inner adult self. They are operating as a wounded child in need of love, attention and compassion. Because they have not learned to give themselves the attention and compassion they need,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, they seek to get these needs met by others. Complaining is a way they have learned to attempt to get this. They use complaining as a form of control, hoping to guilt others into giving them the attention,You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login, caring and compassion they seek.   
  Complaining is a “pull” on other people. Energetically, complainers are pulling on others for caring and understanding because they have emotionally abandoned themselves. They are like demanding little children. The problem is that most people dislike being pulled on and demanded of. Most people don’t want emotional responsibility for another person and will withdraw in the face of another’s complaints.
Addiction to Complaining