Get the first impression right with friends and in dating

[charleychacko]

Are you a person who is counting the words for speaking with others. You will be a person who can't able to impress the others when you meet or speak. Well Forget those things and have some chearful mind and read on


First Impressions: Screw up a first impression, and you probably won't be able to repair the damage.

In your first meeting with others you must create a good impression in their hearts, Otherwise it may not be able to repair the bad impression. First Impression creates a lot of magic in life. Impression is not by cloths but by heart. Let me explain with a example, When you first meeting your online friends or a penpals after a very short period of chat or emails, you may be humorous but not your friends, You may not be perfectionist but your friend may be!. If you make your friends to wait and you are not cared about the late it creates a bad impression on you and it may lead to a break in friendships. So Be perfect in your First Impressions.

It's All About Me
It is about us only. Us includes the both you and me. This advice fits for everyone in this world. Don't Talk about yourself only.Bad first impressions are often caused by anxiety. An anxious person can not think of something to talk about, and so they talk about what they know best: themselves. How many women have been bored in a party while some guy talk with them about him itself. We think that it will create good impression with our friends or penpals, But the truth is it creates a lot of bad impressions upon us. Any converstion with penpals and friends must not revolve around a single person. We must not talk only about ourself and also we must not use the word "I". Its a dangerous word in converstion. Insted of using "I" use "We", See how cool the word is. It includes both or more persons, and also creates a impression of caring. You should let others discover who you are by their own initiative. Just because they shook your hand doesn't mean they want to attend a reading of your autobiography.




The Handshake
Do you have one? Many do not have a handshake. Instead, they hold out their hand for you to squeeze. While you may sense some body heat, that is the only sign of life apparent in the proffered limb. The arm muscles do not join in the shaking process; the fingers do not grasp your hand. Instead the handshake feels about as lifeless as slightly grilled calamari. Bad handshakers drive good handshakers nuts; it's as if they just go through the motions of meeting someone, while they think about something, or someone else. A Good handshake must be strong and steady which gives you a impression that you care strong friendship.

The Poker Face
Some People have fear to meat other people. They get shivering and shake their hands, get sweating in a fully Air conditioned room, or grit their teeth, take deep breath inbetween. They will try to hide their fear. Their speach will be like a preach than a conversation. They won't allow others to ask any questions to them. They won't have any jokes or take any interest in anything. In real life, people confronted with a poker face pretend they need to go to the bathroom just to get away, and then escape to another part of the party.

 

Too Smart For Your Own Good
Smart syndrome occurs when someone feels their best way to make an impression on others is to show how smart they are. This mistake invariably makes you look eccentric…or worse, it makes you look like Cliff the Mailman from Cheers. Even if you are very bright, you will throw people off if you have a lot to say about every subject; others will become scared to talk, for fear of looking foolish. Worst yet is the person who can answer every 25 questions in a row in Trivial Pursuit. Who wants to play against someone who is sure to beat them?

Nervous Laughter
Nervous laughter drives people crazy. There are some who laugh at every wry comment, or laugh after every other sentence, driving others to madness. If you're one of these people, try smiling instead. Inappropriate laughter is a very disturbing sound. While there are many different ways to make a bad first impression, most of these incidents revolve around one cause in particular: an excessive worry about oneself. You should be concentrating on the person you are meeting. You are supposed to be taking an interest in them…instead of being concerned about what someone else thinks of you, of what impression you are making. The more you worry about what kind of first impression you are making, the less likely you are to make a good one.