I am often asked, "Why do women like leaders?"
I think a better question would be, "Do PEOPLE
like leaders?"
If you look at the world around you, you'll notice that
almost EVERYBODY, not just women, are naturally attracted to
leaders.
I think the reason for this is because most people
feel the need to follow somebody. Nobody wants to make
decisions if they could avoid it. The average person would
rather "obey" and "follow" instead of lead so he doesn't have
to make any decisions. (If you don't want to be a leader...
then ask yourself if this is the reason - because you want to
FOLLOW instead of lead...)
If you look at the guys who are not so good in dating,
you will see they usually carry the same traits as the "average
person".
They seek a woman's permission or approval before
they do anything with her.
They are often stuck in a "Victim mentality" and
actually believe statements such as "I am not good looking
enough" or "Women don't like me".
They often would rather follow a woman around instead
of doing the leading.
But as a Smart Dater, you SHOULDN'T be acting like
the "average Joe". You should LOVE making decisions for
yourself and taking full responsibility for your own actions.
Here are 10 things I would love you to do from now
on:
1) Lead on dates. (I will teach you how next time.)
2) Believe in yourself. (And if you don't, read my "Smart
Dating Course" until you do.)
3) Expand your comfort zone AND lead other people out of
theirs. There're tons of people around you who are waiting
to find someone to follow.
4) Fail forward fast. It's okay to fail, as long as you
fall FORWARD and learn from your mistakes.
5) Learn to take educated risks. No risks, no gain. Yes,
you'll risk getting rejected when you approach a woman.
But if you don't approach her at all, you will never get
a chance with her.
6) Don't be a crowd follower: The guy who follows other
people rarely gets noticed by anyone, including women. You
want attention from women? Be in the spotlight!
7) Work on your communication skills. You can't inspire
other people if you can't communicate well.
Be enthusiastic. Be enthusiastic in whatever you do, be
it work, schools, or a hobby. Having this quality can attract
you MANY more women than you can handle.
9) Be knowledgeable. Keep increasing your knowledge. The leader
usually knows a lot more than his follower.
10) Have self-discipline. As I've stated in the past, self-
discipline is *the* key to succeeding in dating and other
areas of your life.
