FoxNews: Rob Lowe explains how becoming an empty nester reignited spark in his marriage

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Rob Lowe explains how becoming an empty nester reignited spark in his marriage

Rob Lowe is speaking about his marriage to wife Sheryl Berkoff, and how after becoming empty nesters, their relationship was reignited.
                       
                       
                           

With their two grown sons out of the house now, You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login and his wife, Sheryl's relationship has been reignited. 

"You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login" star, who has been married to makeup artist and jewelry designer Sheryl Berkoff for 33 years, admitted his two sons' departure from the family home has directly impacted the couple's relationship.

"I was sad when they left," he said of sons, Matthew, 31 and John, 28. "And I thought this is the end of that relationship with your kids — it's not. It's just the beginning of a new chapter," he expressed on "You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login" which aired on Monday.

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"Becoming [an empty nester] was actually super emotional for me," he said. "I was so sad. And then once they were out of the house, I looked at my wife and went, 'Wait a minute, I remember you! You're hot! And we have fun together,'" he said enthusiastically. 

"And all of a sudden, I could wake up in the middle of the night and go get a midnight snack without any clothes on again. It was very freeing. I love being an empty nester now."

Lowe also reflected on his under-the-radar nuptials to Sheryl, 33 years ago.

"We didn't want anybody to know about it. We didn't want it to be in the papers. So we had it at a friend's house and told people they were coming to a daytime luncheon with a wedding theme. So when they walked in and saw the alter, they didn't go, 'What the hell,'" he recounted.

"And then we walked down the aisle," Lowe said, adding that people were stunned to learn it was a real wedding.

Lowe has been vocal in his adoration for his wife, admitting just last year the three keys to his successful marriage.

"It's all about who you choose.... Sheryl was and is my best friend. So if you marry for anything other than the fact that it's your best friend, you're at a disadvantage from the jump. 'Cause that will sustain when the other stuff ebbs and flows," he explained on "You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login," an iHeartPodcast hosted by Bruce Bozzi.

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Another key element to his marriage: forgiveness. 

"People say marriage takes work. I'm not sure if it takes work.... But what it does take is forgiveness. And being really cognizant of what hill you're willing to die on," Lowe explained. 

"You definitely have to stay in the room," he added. "And then I think there is a sense maybe on the outside when one looks at a long marriage and goes 'Oh, it's been — they're blessed.' True. 'And it's a perfect marriage.' There's nothing that's perfect."

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"I think the minute things go south for whatever reason it could be... many many many reasons, I think people can go, 'Oh, I knew it. This, this is bad. This is a mistake. That marriages don't work.' Everybody has those dark periods," he said.

"When they come, and they do, just like a career, everyone has periods where it's not happenin' like you would like it.... Life is like that, it's ebbs and flows.... You just can't bail on the ebbs. 'Cause eventually it'll turn around if you're with the right person."

Lowe also said he thinks You are not allowed to view links. Register or Login needs "heat."

"If you don't have the heat... and that's a chemical thing. That's like I still have it with Sheryl.... You got to keep the heat," he reiterated. "By the way that comes and goes too. There are days, there are times when you're just like, 'Uhhh,' and then all of a sudden you're just wild for somebody. It's one of the great human mysteries." 

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